My journey through Nepal in my late 40’s was due in part to my mid-life crisis. I was 48 at the time, right smack in the middle of the target zone for a crisis to hit.
I was only a few years out of my second divorce and I knew that marriage wasn’t my cup of tea. When you know you are terrible at something, you shouldn’t repeat it, so I stopped dating and looking for “the one”.
Numerous studies and articles like this one in Money magazine state that, unfortunately for me, marriage makes mid-life crisis easier. Obviously, you have someone to share it with, but the marriage rate is dropping. The millennials are a whopping 26% behind in getting married between 18-32. So guess what? Those single folks will struggle mightily with the mid-life crisis.
The U curve of happiness in life is well documented and you can prepare for the downturn in life satisfaction by openly talking with those closest to you about your desires. Journaling helped me a lot. While in Nepal I wrote each day what I liked and disliked about my life up to that point and what I’d like to change when I got home.
Meditation, deep breathing exercises, journaling and hanging out with positive thinking friends all will help you get through it with flying colors…the trouble is you don’t want to do any of those things when you are in the midst of your crisis. You want to feel sorry for yourself. You want to do everything that is bad for you. Many guys buy a Harley or Corvette…I traveled alone to Nepal.
A mid-life crisis can be expensive or it can be experiential. Mine was both. In the end, I was really satisfied with my trip and the outcome.
Life doesn’t have to be hard, we tend to make it that way. Commit to a good outcome and take action to achieve it and you will realize your dreams.
At least in this man’s opinion.